{"id":9252,"date":"2014-12-22T09:45:31","date_gmt":"2014-12-22T17:45:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.pnwumc.org\/news\/?p=9252"},"modified":"2014-12-22T09:45:31","modified_gmt":"2014-12-22T17:45:31","slug":"elders-lean-to-the-other-side","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pnwumc.org\/news\/elders-lean-to-the-other-side\/","title":{"rendered":"Elders: Lean to the Other Side!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nurturing Elders and Others:<\/em>
\nLean to the Other Side!<\/strong>
\nBy the Rev. Paul Graves<\/em><\/p>\n

As a wood-worker, I make a pretty fair preacher! That\u2019s to say, wood-working is not a skill I\u2019ve ever developed. But a few months ago, I asked my good friend, Tom, if he would help me develop a few of those skills in his own workshop. He graciously agreed. In December, I took him at his word.<\/p>\n

I had a project and goal in mind: I wanted to make wooden balance-toys for our son, daughter-in-law and our three grandchildren. They all have very busy lives, so I wanted to make a Christmas toy for each of them — to remind them that \u201cbalance\u201d in their lives is a healthy goal to seek. <\/p>\n

I chose to make my own version of a toy that Creative Playthings made around 1960. Tom and I created my version with laughter at my mistakes and his teaching skills. He taught me a good deal in our early December \u201ctoy-time\u201d. We even made our own toys since our need for life-balance is ever-present.<\/p>\n

As I write this column, it is only mid-December, so I don\u2019t know how our kids will respond to my gift. But I do know the whole process has been a wonderful gift to me. I need regular reminding how easy it is to 1) get out of life-balance; and 2) to sometimes find new balance by simple adjustments to attitude and\/or action.<\/p>\n

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Joan Chittister wrote a compelling book in 2007 called \u201cWelcome to the Wisdom of the World and Its Meaning for You: Universal Spiritual Insights Distilled from Five Religious Traditions.\u201d She explores common human questions and illustrates them with stories from Hinduism, Buddhism, Christianity, Judaism and Islam.
\nAs she explores a question of life-balance, \u201cWhat can I do when enough is enough?\u201d Joan tells this Jewish tale (revised for this column):<\/p>\n

Rabbi Israel was asked by his disciples, \u201cTell us, dear rabbi, how should we serve God?\u201d So he told them a story of 2 friends who were accused of a crime and brought before the king. He wanted to show compassion for them, but couldn\u2019t disregard a law. <\/p>\n

His solution was to stretch a rope across a chasm, and each man was to walk that tight-rope, one after the other. Whoever reached the other side would be granted his life. The first friend got safely across. <\/p>\n

\u201cThe other\u2026cried to him: \u2018Tell me, my friend, how did you manage to cross this terrible chasm on that thin and swaying rope?\u2019 The first of the two prisoners called back: \u2018I don\u2019t know anything but this \u2013 whenever I felt myself toppling over to one side, I leaned to the other.\u2019\u201d. (p. 88, Chittister)
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\nJoan continues her narrative: \u201cThe rabbi makes two points. First, no one solves the pressures of life simply by standing still. When life is off balance, the only way to stay on our feet is by moving in the other direction. <\/p>\n

Second, any excess \u2013 leaning either entirely to the right or entirely to the left \u2013 will only damage us one way or another in the end\u2026Doing more of the same or doing it faster \u2013 even in an attempt to end the pressure \u2013 only hastens the burnout or the breakdown.\u201d (p. 88-89)<\/p>\n

She then describes five attributes of what she calls the \u201cspirituality of balance\u201d: equilibrium, variety, self-awareness, re-creation and an appreciation of the value of imperfection. Space prohibits me from fleshing out those attributes. If you want to know more, I can pass that information on to you, or buy the book.<\/p>\n

Each attribute reminds me of the toy-making process that my friend Tom and I engaged in. I learned something from each one, especially about the value of imperfection! <\/p>\n

Whether our lives are stagnant or overwhelmed with activity, I suspect we older adults could always benefit from re-balancing something in our lives. Joan\u2019s last sentence sums it up for me: \u201cFor the sake of our very souls, we must lean, lean, lean to the other side.\u201d <\/p>\n

The Rev. Paul Graves serves as the chair for the Conference Council on Older Adult Ministries.<\/em><\/center><\/p>\n
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