{"id":14800,"date":"2017-02-06T13:31:22","date_gmt":"2017-02-06T21:31:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.pnwumc.org\/news\/?p=14800"},"modified":"2017-02-06T13:31:22","modified_gmt":"2017-02-06T21:31:22","slug":"reverend-mom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pnwumc.org\/news\/reverend-mom\/","title":{"rendered":"Reverend Mom"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Rev. Debbie Sperry<\/strong><\/h4>\n

It was Christmas Eve, 7:00pm and time for the traditional service to start. The organist played and I walked down the aisle, cloaked in my white robe, liturgist by my side. As I neared the chancel, I saw my husband and daughter seated in the first pew.<\/p>\n

My daughter waved me over. I thought she might give me a little hug or a kiss before I continued up the aisle. Instead, she handed me the packet of gummies that was in the \u201cbusy bags\u201d for the kids. She wanted them open. One might never understand the logic of a 5 year old that dictates that the busier (read: working) parent needs to attend to their problem instead of the less busy (read: non-working) parent sitting next to them.\u00a0I took a breath, knowing it would take longer to argue the point than open the package.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Trying not to be overly conspicuous as I used my teeth to get it open, I simply sat on the pew next to her, opened it, and handed it back. I couldn\u2019t help but smile and shake my head slightly. I stood, saw members of the choir smiling back at me, and finished processing.<\/p>\n

The main thought in my head was, \u201cI may be working, but I\u2019m a mom first.\u201d I might be able to state that easily, but trust me, the tension between being mom and being a pastor is not easy. As I imagine it\u2019s not for most working parents.<\/p>\n

Finding a work-life\/home-life balance as a parent is never easy. Sometimes we sacrifice for our families and sometimes we sacrifice for our jobs.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Finding a work-life\/home-life balance as a parent is never easy. Sometimes we sacrifice for our families and sometimes we sacrifice for our jobs. And often, either way, we feel guilty for the one we are not giving \u201cour best\u201d.<\/p>\n

Healthy balance is not easy to come by. But, as a member Gen X (my age better known as the \u201cOregon Trail\u201d generation), I believe my generation is working harder than ever not to sacrifice home for work or vice versa. Many are finding alternative sources of income to allow them to work from home or increase their income so they don\u2019t have to spend 50-70 hours at the office. Others, like me, split their time between home and the office, using technology to do work in all kinds of ways and places.<\/p>\n

As a young pastor, I was encouraged to get out of the office and into the community. Be present. Be visible. That meant I wrote sermons at Starbucks, saving files in Google drive or Dropbox, or checked emails while donating blood. In the last 10 years of ministry, I\u2019ve found lots of ways to connect and relate, not the least of which includes texting prayers, connecting on Facebook, sending emails to arrange meetings or sending reflections after a meeting. I may make pastoral calls while nursing my baby, or prepare for worship as my 5 year old does learning games on the iPad.<\/p>\n

Later in the Christmas Eve service, my husband had to step out with our 1 year old. There was no nursery care that night, so he had kept our busy son in the service. Only my son insisted on being up with mommy, so he was taken out. Then at my husband\u2019s absence, my daughter was alone and unhappy, so she pleaded to come sit next to me. The lay leader was in the choir, so I allowed her to come to the vacant chair. She was great. She was quiet, not overly demanding, and was able to come help with communion by holding the gluten free plate.<\/p>\n

It sounds simple, but it was a gift. Clergy moms often take a lot of flack for how our kids behave, where they \u201cappear\u201d in the life of the church, and how we include them. I serve a gracious congregation with lots of kids and they\u2019ve embraced mine.<\/p>\n

The service, in terms of my kids, may not have gone as I would have imagined. But for me, it was ok. It matters that my kids learn the rhythms of worship. It matters to me that all kids have that chance. So, if it\u2019s a little busy, silly, noisy, or \u201cout of order\u201d that\u2019s ok. They are God\u2019s beloved.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m grateful we have the chance to share faith and worship God together. That is, after all, what we\u2019re about, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n

\n

Rev. Debbie Sperry serves as pastor to\u00a0Moscow First United Methodist Church<\/a>\u00a0in Moscow, Idaho.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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